Yes and No May 10, 2017
Indecision torments us. Indecision stands between “yes” and “no,” saying neither completely. It takes us into anxiety, depression and confusion. We lose sleep because we can’t make up our mind. At times we say “yes” on the outside and “no” on the inside. We feel obligated to comply to the wishes of another, so we carry out the task with resentment.
We can say “yes” and “no” to our marriage, to our job, to ministry, to school, to parenting or to any other task or relationship in life. Let’s use marriage as an example. We stay married because we sincerely believe God hates divorce. So outwardly we are saying “yes” to the marriage but inwardly we are angry, resentful and despairing, saying, “No, I don’t want to be married to this person!” Just because you refuse to divorce doesn’t mean you have decided to be married. You must say either a resounding “yes” or an absolute “no.” Either you vow to be married or vow not to be married. Matthew 5:37 says that anything beyond this is of the evil one. It causes turmoil and resentment within us, as well as in the relationship. To say “yes” to your marriage means you are willing to take responsibility for your part in it, regardless of whether your spouse does their part. My “yes” or “no” is about me, not about anyone or anything else. It means choosing daily to have a good attitude and doing all I can to work toward healing and reconciliation. It means doing whatever I do as serving the Lord and not man.
To say a complete “yes,” I must have the freedom to say “no.” If I feel forced or compelled to say “yes” I will have a battle raging in me. II Cor. 9:7 says, “Let each one do just as he has purposed in his heart, not grudgingly or under compulsion; for God loves a cheerful giver.” This is why God will not remove our freedom of choice. He wants us to choose Him freely, therefore, we must have the freedom to not choose Him.
Cindy’s training includes a Bachelor’s degree from Life Pacific College in Ministry and Leadership, she is a graduate of GSM Counselor Training Program and Elijah House Ministries basic and advanced counseling programs. Cindy has travelled to Kenya, Congo, Egypt, Thailand, Nepal, and Pakistan to offer GSM Counselor Training and suicide intervention training. For the past seven years she has worked at Blue Mountain Community College as the coordinator of tutoring, disability services, suicide prevention, and health and wellness programs.